I was wary about Joshua Tunick’s ‘Do You Take This Man.’ I have not been fond really fond of the two lead actors, Anthony Rapp and Jonathan Bennett, but I started watching the film, and before I knew it, tears started falling. In my younger years, I have always been against weddings. I don’t really have a problem with it per se, but it always rubbed me the wrong way when people spent enormous amounts of money on it. Or maybe I was just being bitter – gay marriage wasn’t legal then, and maybe I always felt that I was an outcast whenever it was concerned. But now, I think I feel a little differently. I know I was a little judgmental. I mean, if someone wants to spend a lot of money on a wedding ceremony, sure why not? And the ones I have gone to of late – they always made me cry. It’s such a joyous celebration of love that the beauty of it always gets to me. One of the characters int eh film says, “you may think it doesn’t make a difference, but it does, it makes the relationship deeper.” I can only trust their words.
Rapp and Bennett do well with their roles, and I like the slow lazy way the film takes. They hit a major snafu a day before their wedding, and it gives them a reason to contemplate and assess their decisions. I found all of it very touching, although I am also aware that most of the conflict probably only happens to privileged white males. The supporting actors were all great, especially Allyson Hannigan who plays Rapp’s sister.
The effect for me was instant melancholy. I am much too old now to have this kind of relationship, and to even think that I would get married gives me hives. But it’s a treat to see a nice gay marriage story on screen.